The way in which you decided to spend your time over the past few years has brought you to where you are right now!
Decisions you took five, ten or even twenty years ago are still affecting what you are experiencing in your life today. Unless you review where you are and strike out for where you want to get to, the chances are that how you choose to spend your time in the next five, ten or twenty years will be led by events, crises, other people and whatever wind blows hardest, NOT YOU.
None of us can expect a smooth path throughout life and very few people are ever able to claim that they achieve all they set out to achieve. When you consider the present you will feel that the decisions you had taken in the past were taken by an entirely different person.
A person with different priorities and outlook on life more able and motivated to spend time on things that were of the moment and immediate.
At that time, you felt, you had plenty of time to make longer term decisions later, and to think about the future sometime. There was and is nothing wrong with that provided at the time you were aware that the day of change will come.
Would you today trust decisions affecting your wealth, family, career, happiness and success as well as wellbeing to that relatively inexperienced person?
YOU, as you were then.
I'm not so sure many of us would. Naturally this will depend on how much fall-out of those decisions is still affecting you today. If you are highly successful then the right decisions may have been made, if you are still striving to be successful a revision might be helpful, if you are struggling then the wrong choices were made.
My personal experiences show quite clearly, that the biggest factors in the wellbeing of people when they reach the age of 60+ are the decisions they took between the ages of 35-55, and how effectively they used their time, on what they consider the most important things at the time.
The biggest issue for YOU may be the decisions you are now taking knowing you have to work for more years than previously planned as the retirement age is moving further into the future for most people.
This an opportunity for re- evaluating your career path or re- thinking what time for retirement you will have, what you want to achieve, where you want your life to be?
We are all so bogged down daily responding to demands, opportunities and pressures, calls, momentary tasks, bleeps, noises and all that makes each day pass often too quickly that we rarely take time out to consider what is really going to be important to us in the medium and long term.
For some of us it may be that we are on our own with too much time and too little of interest to usefully spend our time with the resulting stress and frustration.
Of equal importance, many of us fail to recognize the crucial role of using at least some time on the things that will make the medium and longer term a fulfilling and more satisfying experience.
The clock is running for all of us but not everyone has a ‘road map' to follow or effective self management skills to make a difference.
We all know what that can feel like - lost in the one-way system.
To realizethe value of a sister/brother Ask someone who doesn't have one. To realize the value of ten years: Ask a newly Divorced couple. To realizethe value of four years: Ask a graduate. To realizethe value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam. To realize the value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn. To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth toa premature baby. To realizethe value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of one minute: Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane. To realizethe value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident. To realize the value of a friend or family member: LOSE ONE **************** Time waits for no one.
If there is one question for which every woman wants an answer is what men want. This question crops up in the mind of every woman be it be a teenager going on her first date; a newly wedded wife getting ready for her husband to return from work; a single woman waiting to find the right man; a divorcee trying to rebuild her life.
This question has been asked by women in the past, and will be asked by women in the future too. It is a question that has no easy answers; with each relationship being completely different from another. The best one can do is to explore seven subjects that form the cornerstone of any relationship between men and women. These subjects hold the key for any woman to understand what men want.
1. Sex
What do men want in sex?
How frequent should be lovemaking?
Should it be passionate?
Should women have sex before marriage?
There is little doubt that most men are obsessed with sex. It is a biological need, and men should not be blamed for wanting sex. However, sex alone cannot build a long lasting relationship. It can bring a couple together but it cannot hold them together beyond a certain point.
What a woman must understand is that a man finds happiness and fulfillment in sex. A woman who is willing to reach out and unite in the act of lovemaking is most likely to win a man than a woman who uses sex as a manipulative tool.
Also, men are not ogres. They don’t go to women looking for sex alone. Most of them don’t want their partners to degrade themselves when making love to them. They would rather like all acts of lovemaking to be complete and fulfilling to both.
Men, in fact, agonize more than women if they are unable to excite their partners. This is because men can be easily aroused whereas it takes longer, and more foreplay in the case of women to get aroused.
There is little doubt that a man would like to take a woman to bed as quickly as possible. But few men want to make love if they find their partners are unwilling. Most of them don’t want to hurt or injure the feelings of a woman with whom they have developed a bonding or are in the process of doing so. Also, no man would insist on sex as a prerequisite to marriage.
Yes, every man has his fantasies about sex, and would like frequent and passionate sex with the woman he loves. One-night stands, as the name suggests, are only flings, not relationships.
2. Companionship
What kind of a companion does a man want?
How should women meet those needs?
Men want women with whom they can share their likes and dislikes, their fears and triumphs, their weaknesses and strengths… They want women who can empathize with their failures and revel in their triumphs.
Women who constantly find faults with their men are unlikely to win their love and respect. Every woman must remember that men are vain by nature. They need pampering, and even mothering. At the same time they need emotional fulfillment.
This does not mean that women have to become sports enthusiasts or political analysts to please their men. They only need to provide space to their men to follow their passions.
3. Homemakers
Should women be great cooks to win acceptance?
Should women alone be expected to keep house?
Is it a woman’s job to rear kids?
Today’s men respect the ambitions of women. They don’t want to relegate their wives to the role of a domestic help. They would like their women to do well in life. However, they would not like this to happen at the cost of their own careers.
Most women must realize that every man wants to be the main breadwinner. His male ego gets hurt if he has to depend on his wife to run the home. He would certainly expect his wife to cook for him on at least three to four days a week. He would also expect women to keep the home clean and well kept. The best that a man is willing to do is to extend a helping hand. But the woman has to be the main homemaker.
4. Emotional support
Should women give advice?
Are men open to points of view given by women?
Once again the male ego is too vain. It is not willing to listen easily to the advice given by better halves. Almost every man goes on the defensive when the woman he loves wants to correct him. He may accept the same advice from another male; but would be very reluctant to do so from a woman.
Women should therefore be careful. They should make men feel they can climb Mount Everest, if need be. They must encourage them by constantly telling them how much confidence they have in them. This will bring the best out of every man.
5. Looks matter
Should women doll up for men?
Is a woman’s figure important?
How important is it to dress up especially for men?
Men love beautiful women. They don’t want their woman to look dowdy. This is not only true at the time of dating but even after marriage. Women who allow their figures to slip are likely to loose the interest of their men. This may sound sexist but this is how life is. An attractive woman, who knows how to carry herself, will always turn male heads.
6. Private space
Why do men need time for themselves?
Are they hiding something?
Shouldn’t they share all their thoughts with me?
The best relationships are those where women are willing to wait; where they give time to their men to unwind themselves. They should not rush into their arms the moment they come home, and expect them to unburden themselves. Instead, they should wait for the right time when the man is more ready to share his inner thoughts. Even here, it is important to be patient, and encouraging. Don’t find faults with your man’s thinking; the chances are that he may shut himself off. Each man needs space to sort his thoughts. A woman can help him by being encouraging and understanding.
7. Respect
Do men need more respect than women?
How should a woman behave?
Finally, both men and women need respect if the relationship is to survive. This can only happen if a woman is willing to listen to her man. Also, a woman should respect a man’s interests even though they may be widely different from her. She should allow him necessary space to follow his interests which may be sports, politics or cards.
What do men want? Has this question ever been answered
satisfactorily for the average woman? Only a small percentage
of women seem to understand what a man wants in a woman.
The simplicity of what he
wants is often the real problem for women...it just seems too simple. Well it's
not that simple, there is some effort involved for a wife or girlfriend to
learn how to satisfy her man beyond just the standard belief that "all he
wants is sex." It's definitely not all he wants, not by a long shot. There
are tremendous benefits for all women who learn what a healthy man wants in his
relationship with her.
Happy wife, happy life. The happiness of his wife is the key
measurement a man uses to determine how well he's doing as a mate. Simple
enough. But what if his wife isn't happy?
What if she fails to tell him about
the things in her life that she's happy and thankful about?
This fact about
what men want in a woman is rather unsettling for countless women. They have a
lot more control in their relationship than they feel comfortable with. With
power comes responsibility. The pressure can feel a little overwhelming at
times.
If his wife continues to be unhappy for a prolonged period
of time, it's common for the husband to stop trying to please her. This is the
same if she is happy yet fails to tell him specifically what she's happy about.
He will withdraw into other activities that he can be successful at. He
believes he's not doing a good job of keeping his wife happy.
Happy is what a man wants his girlfriend or wife to be.
Happy with the job he's doing as a husband or mate.
But what if the woman doesn't know what she wants to
accomplish with her life?
This is a very challenging situation that needs attention.
For many women, this is an area that has gotten pushed to the side in the rush
of a busy life. Having clarity about your dreams and aspirations is essential
so you can convey them to your husband. Without a clear idea of what brings you
happiness, your boyfriend or husband is likely to stop trying to please you.
It's like trying to hit a target that's always moving or running a race where
the finish line is always changing. That's certainly a recipe for relationship
ruin.
The dating process can also go more smoothly if this work
has been done. You'll be better equipped to find a match because you've thought
through what's important to you. If you're vague about yourself while dating,
you're more likely to attract men who lack clear direction
If you try looking for male enhancement product reviews, you’ll be inundated with hundreds, even thousands of sites providing “independent” and “unbiased” ratings of different male enhancement products, particularly male enhancement supplements.
The “Big Three” prescription erectile dysfunction (ED) drugs Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra are effective at improving erection quality, which is an aspect of male enhancement. But these drugs do nothing to increase sexual desire or libido. They’re also not free from harmful side effects and are quite expensive. Do you want to be dependent on these drugs whenever you need a boner?
If you have been blessed with a naturally high sex drive, this doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to raise the flag whenever you want to. Aging contributes to ED and low libido. Taking a quality male enhancement supplement can help address these issues.
There are a number of herbs that have powerful aphrodisiac properties. Almost all of these herbs work using the same principle as the Big Three ED drugs – boost erection quality by increasing the flow of blood to the penis. Each male enhancement supplement features a different formulation but they often share these common herbal ingredients:
• Yohimbe Bark Extract
• Tribulus Terrestris
• Epimedium (Horny Goat Weed)
• Tongkat Ali
• Ginseng (American, Asian, and Siberian)
• Muira Puama
• Maca
• Damiana
• Catuaba
• L-arginine
L-arginine is not an herb but an amino acid that comes from animal and plant proteins. It helps boost the production of nitric oxide, which widens blood vessels and allows more blood to enter the penis.
However, increasing the number of ingredients will not necessarily increase the efficacy of a male enhancement supplement. The brands that contain more herbs tend to add those that help support overall health but don’t specifically enhance sexual performance. Nevertheless, the brands that contain at least six of the 10 mentioned ingredients are likely going to be effective at increasing blood flow to the penis.
Herb-based male enhancement supplements are only about 80 percent as effective as ED drugs in terms of improving erection quality. However, natural male enhancement supplements support other important aspects of sexual health, including libido, stamina, and sperm quality, which ED drugs cannot do, at a fraction of the cost of taking prescription medication.
Overall, it’s worth your effort, money, and time to try quality male enhancement supplements and look for a brand that you body will best respond to.
The Law of Attraction started with the creation of the universe and the creation of thought.
The challenging question is, when did mankind first become aware of this law?
The answer to that is unknown, although there is some evidence to suggest that people knew about universal law at least 6000 or 7000 years ago.
Research on the history of the law of attraction provides us with many inspirational quotes, which gives us plenty of evidence that the laws were truly understood.
When studying the history of the Law of Attraction we see that Buddha said,
'All that we are is the result of what we have thought.'
A powerful statement, not only do we create the material things in our lives by what we think, we also create ourselves.
Further evidence in the history of the Law of Attraction can be found in the King James version of the Bible. We see that Job may not have fully understood the workings of attraction, however like many people today he suffered the consequences of the law by not using it for his good.
In Job 3: 25, it reads,
'For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.'
How many of us are creating what we do not desire in life? How many of us are setting ourselves up as victims because we do not understand or are not consciously using the law of attraction?
Without knowing when the phrase Attraction was first coined, it is difficult to document the first writings. Law of attraction awareness was certainly awakened in the last century or so, with many authors and scientists writing, perhaps controversially, at the turn of the last century.
Many of these books are now in the public domain and are available in eBook format from the Law-of-Attraction-Guide library.
James Allen is best known work As a Man Thinketh, which is one of the most powerful law of attraction books written.
The forward states,
'to stimulate men and women to the discovery and perception of the truth that - they themselves are makers of themselves by virtue of the thoughts which they choose and encourage; that mind is the master-weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance, and that, as they may have hitherto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness.'
As you can see the style of writing is rather dated and needs to be read carefully.
Wallace Wattles studied the various religious beliefs and philosophies of the world including those of Descartes, Spinoza, Leibnitz, Schopenhauer, Hegel, Swedenborg, Emerson, and others.
He translated those studies into several books including The Science of Getting Rich. In this book he builds upon the following statement,
'There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought. I can form things in my thought, and by impressing my thoughts upon formless substance, can cause the thing I think about to be created.'
In the past 30 years, this book has been used as the basis to teach many people about the law of attraction, and was the inspiration for the movie, The Secret.
Charles Haanel was a noted American author and businessman who belonged to the American Scientific League, The Author's League of America, The American Society of Psychical Research, the St. Louis Humane Society and the St. Louis Chamber of Commerce.
Haanel wrote several books that were published in St. Louis by Psychology Publishing and by his Master Key Institute in New York.
Mr. Haanel put into books the ideas and methods he used to gain his success. Besides the Master Key System, which he wrote in 1912, he also wrote Mental Chemistry and The New Psychology.
By 1933 The Master Key System had sold over 200,000 copies and then seemingly disappeared.
Studying the history of the law of attraction, The Master Key System has proved to be one of the finest studies in self-improvement and higher consciousness ever written. Covering everything from attracting abundance and prosperity, to greater health and happiness. This system teaches the principles and practise of the laws of cause and effect.
One of the most inspirational quotations written in the introduction of the book is,
'Abundance, therefore, depends upon recognition of the laws of Abundance, and the fact that Mind is not only the creator, but the only creator of all there is.'
Again the writing style requires careful reading, but is well worth it.
The Master Key System was originally written as a 24 part correspondence course and therefore is far more practical as a step by step building process, with weekly law of attraction exercises and lessons.
The Master Key System is the spine of our own training program Unlock The Power of You
Napolean Hill is considered to have influenced more people into success than any other person in history. He has been perhaps the most influential man in the area of personal success development.
Napoleon Hill achieved great success as an attorney and journalist. His early career as a reporter helped finance his way through law school. He was given an assignment to write a series of success stories of famous men, and his big break came when he was asked to interview steel-magnate Andrew Carnegie.
Mr. Carnegie commissioned Hill to interview over 500 millionaires to find a success formula that could be used by the average person. These included Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Henry Ford, Elmer Gates, Charles M. Schwab, Theodore Roosevelt, William Wrigley Jr, John Wanamaker, WIlliam Jennings Bryan, George Eastman, Woodrow Wilson, William H. Taft, John D. Rockefeller, F. W. Woolworth, Jennings Randolph, among others. He became an advisor to Andrew Carnegie, and with Carnegie's help he formulated a philosophy of success, drawing on the thoughts and experience of a multitude of rags-to-riches tycoons.
It took Hill over 20 years to produce his book, a classic in the Personal Development field called Think and Grow Rich. This book has sold over 7 million copies and has helped thousands achieve success. The secret to success is very simple but you'll have to read the book to find out what it is!
The first copy of Think and Grow rich was sold in 1937. Eleven years later, in February 1948, Coronet magazine polled 300 successful young men and women, asking, 'What books had most influenced their lives and contributed to their success?' Think and Grow Rich was ranked fourth. Some 38 years later USA Today published a list of the top 10 selling paperbacks about investments, Think and Grow Rich ranked No.1. Incredibly in 2002, some 65 years after it was published, Think and Grow Rich was tenth in the Business Week bestsellers.
Napoleon Hills work stands as a monument to individual achievement and is the cornerstone of modern motivation. His book, Think and Grow Rich, is the all time best seller in the field.
Florence Scovel is one of the first metaphysics teachers of this past century. In her book The Game of Life and How to Play It, she states;
'Most people consider life a battle, but it is not a battle, it is a game. It is a game, however, which cannot be played successfully without the knowledge of spiritual law, and the Old and the New Testaments give the rules of the game with wonderful clearness.'
Jesus Christ taught that it was a great game of Giving and Receiving. 'Whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap'
This means that whatever man sends out in word or deed, will return to him; what he gives, he will receive. If he gives hate, he will receive hate; if he gives love, he will receive love; if he gives criticism, he will receive criticism; if he lies he will be lied to; if he cheats he will be cheated.
Florence is also quoted as saying -
'Infinite spirit opens the way for my great abundance. I am an irresistible magnet for all that belongs to me by divine right. My supply is endless, inexhaustible and immediate and comes to me under grace in perfect ways.'
It is my belief, that at our very core, people want to have a peaceful and harmonious world. I also believe that as people become aware of the Law of Attraction, they will realize that they can influence the world by their belief and will be an agent for positive change for the future. It is important that more and more people become aware of and use the law of attraction daily to create tremendous lives for themselves and others.
In the days before chemicals and pharmaceuticals for every ailment, we have forgotten that there have been thousands of years of using natural methods to enhance sexual desire and to make sex more fun.
Even though you can take a pill in order to have an erection, what exactly are the consequences and has it done anything to rejuvenate your sexual prowess and energy? There are unpleasant side effects to these pills, including nerve loss and low blood pressure.
A more holistic way of enhancing vitality and reinvigorating the sexual energy exists that makes you feel young and powerful. It is based on an ancient Chinese Taoist exercise that should be done on a daily basis and should be very beneficial for you.
Sperm production will be enhanced and it is said to be healthful to the prostate gland as well. It does wonders for the libido and can increase sexual desire for men.
The Male version of the Exercise of the Deer
The Taoists spent time examining animals and their behaviors and patterned their martial arts after the ways animals defended themselves. The noticed how the deer would stimulate their anus by wiggling their tail often. The deer has a remarkable sexual ability and lives long and healthy. Using this exercise will definitely increase sexual desire for men.
You'll need to sit naked after taking a bath or shower. Find a spot on an exercise mat or sit on a firm bed. Sit cross-legged and cup your testicles with just a single hand. Do not squeeze the testicles. Place the other hand just below and to the right of the belly button.
Massage your abdomen, using circular motions for a total of 81 times. Repeat with the left side of the belly button for another 81 times. These are the sexual meridians for your body and you will tend to feel a comfortable, warm feeling going up and down your spinal column.
Anus and Prostate Exercise
Next, you can support yourself with your arms as you sit cross-legged at your place. Now squeeze you anus-first squeezing it soft and then a little harder, than and finally as hard as you can squeeze. Hold this hard pose for at least nine seconds and then relax. Does this exercise nine times.
What has happened after doing this series of exercises? You have the ability to increase sexual desire for men and have increased your libido and ability to have an erection in a natural fashion. You will feel younger, especially after you have done this daily for at least ten days. Your sexual vigorousness will have increased.
Combine all of this with a healthy diet that includes a lot o nuts, fruits and honey and you will feel greater well-being, an increase in sexual energy and healthfulness.
Ever since the movie & book 'The Secret', the Law of Attraction has gone from a little known tool used by just a few, to a term known by millions of people around the world. There are thousands of web-sites and dozens of Gurus all proclaiming there knowledge of this ancient law.
So, what do the law of attraction, goal setting and magick have to do with each other, what are the common denominators? Simple, the law of attraction states that what you focus on with desire, and hold in your mind as being true, will eventually come about. All of these terms are just systems of acquiring something, that you desire. It can be material, emotional or mental.
Why do some people use magic to achieve their goals? Why all the symbols and rituals? If you have any knowledge of goal setting or the law of attraction, you probably use one or more of the following methods;
meditation
visualization
affirmations
motivational music or surroundings
pictures and vision boards
writing out your goals
good luck charm or lucky item
asking for help from God or the Universe
It has been documented many times that using more of your senses (i.e. sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch etc) when goal setting & visualizing will increase your chances of obtaining your desires and anchor your goals strongly into your unconscious mind.
Seriously, a goal that is focused on regularly using positive emotion, most of your senses and firm belief in a positive outcome, will be much more likely to succeed than a few mumbled, half-hearted words.
Using magic especially ritual magic to achieve your goals is a powerful tool. No belief in actual witchcraft is required. You can send your requests to any powers or source that you feel right about, gods, angels or just the infinite universe. Oddly enough, you can practice magic and be from almost any religion or even an atheist.
With ritual magic you can use costumes, props, symbols, music, incense, wine or food, images and of course, the spell or rite itself. The spell uses words or rhyme to set your goal. Using magic like this allows you to cover all the senses and really put yourself in a powerful place to ask for and accept your desires.
Back to the law of attraction and goal setting. If you're uncomfortable with anything at all to do with magic or spells it doesn't matter, you can still ad a little ritual to your goal setting and vastly increase the chances or receiving your desires and dreams. Just a few minor additions will turbo charge your attraction ability. Try some of the following;
perform your visualization at the same time every day (this sets a routine for your mind)
use affirmations written in present tense, speak & repeat them aloud if you can
play positive music that lifts you up
use a vision board or something else that has images cut-out and pasted of the things you desire
write out your goals using positive emotions and make them believable
carry a good luck charm of any kind that represents your current desire, focus on it during the day to remind yourself of your goal
try to avoid negative thoughts and people
re-affirm your goal everyday for as long as it takes to achieve it
Whether you use magic or traditional goal setting techniques, the more of yourself that you put into it, the quicker you will realize your dreams. Never rubbish anyone's method of using the law of attraction. Negativity of this kind will rob you of your own success and block your ability to attract. Use what works for you and drop what doesn't. Don't be afraid to try new techniques to boost your efforts.
The more you practice, the better you will get and the faster your results will come. At first you may think that nothing is happening, but believe me, as soon as you begin to focus on a goal you have already begun to attract it. What stops the process from finishing for most people is; doubt, negativity and impatience. Give it a chance and you will be rewarded!!!
Stress is a term employed in psychology for describing a malady marked by a state of alarm, increased adrenaline production, fatigue, irritability, muscle rigidity, the inability to concentrate, and various physical side effects like headaches and accelerated heart rate. The affliction is thought to be caused by inability on the part of a human being, to suitably respond to emotional, as well as physical dangers, either real or imagined. As it is, the problem covers a wide array of phenomena, which may possibly range from mild irritation to severe dysfunction, and may possibly result in an extreme physical breakdown. Stress can exhibit a vast array of conditions that could be physical, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral.
The term was first coined within the 1930s by the well recognized endocrinologist Hans Selye. The term was later broadened as well as made popular. It later included inappropriate physiological responses to any particular issue.
Stress is rapidly becoming one of the biggest health problems today. The rise in competition, hectic lifestyles and workplace conditions are some of the major factors towards the rising amounts of stress in our society. This has also led to an alarming rise in several other psychological conditions and ailments too.
Since it is such a serious situation and constant stress might lead to a number of psychological difficulties, it is crucial to work on your stress levels. The following are a few stress management techniques, which may provide some help:
One of your best friends, when faced having a stressful situation is developing a positive attitude. Look at the glass as half full, not half empty. This will assist you in reviving your senses and looking at a specific situation from a new perspective. This will also help you to create a solution for the issue that's causing all the stress.
Another thing to do is to change your emphasis from the condition. Engage yourself in activities that you love, for example playing a sport, watching movies, listening to music etc. But, while you do so, it is essential that you do not think of the situation that is causing all the stress.
Spending time with your family, especially your kids, can also supply you with a lot of relief from stress. Playing with your pets also has the same stress relieving affect. Try to forget about your worries, while you do so you'll discover yourself in a better state to deal with any stressful situation. It can be hard, but with conscious effort, you can let go of more and more of your worries.
An additional fantastic method to relieve stress is by practicing yoga. A session of yoga will help you calm down your anxiety levels and lowers the level of stress. As a matter of fact, in recent times, numerous businesses are running Yoga sessions to decrease the level of stress in their employees.
The stress management techniques outlined in this article have been proven to assist decrease stress. However, you should realize that these stress management techniques will perform only when you wish to get out of a stressful condition.
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